Do I let go of my frustrations and expectations or discuss the need for priorities to match.
Tithe/offering
Soccer
Church
Wednesday
Should have gone to ss instead.
As with Sam – 90% attitude 10% action
With Sam – attitude is non judgmental, supporting, enjoying/have fun, model gratitude … not allow self to get agitated – doesn’t support anyone. Getting loud, direct, firm… comes at times of safety need.
With scripture – love your neighbor as yourself (not judging, supporting, helping, building up not putting down, being patient, kind… stay positive and supportive … how can I not get agitated or loud etc unless it is a very serious safety or life and death matter.
Perhaps God has had me continue to work in this program to confront my anger or agitation, getting to the core of it, and find ways to move it to walking more effectively in life.
Model all of what I want to see instead of just saying it. If I want the kids to LISTEN, I need to be an immediate, attentive, patient, respectful listener. If I want my kids to be THANKFUL, I need to be thankful and speak acknowledgement, appreciation, and gratitude regularly, consistently… If I want kids to have an attitude of HELPFULNESS and COOPERATION, I can model it by offering to and actively help – maybe verbalize more – “I’ll do the kitchen, what would you like to do?” Maybe if we plan to clean up before a movie – clearly without agitation, just patience and helpfulness and kindness explain that we can watch the movie once the house is tidy – we can do it cheerfully or with frustration (our choice), we can work together or on our own, we can watch and learn how to clean up or help do the things you know how to do…
Less sit down conversations and more very intentional modeling
“They will know we are Christians by our love…” not just the words we say.
“May the words of my mouth and the meditation of my heart be pleasing in your sight oh Lord my rock and my redeemer.”
No negatively, complaining, arguing, shaming,
Is it possible to have a way to disagree with our cultural and societal choices and speak disagreement etc without an attitude of judgment, shaming, criticism? Is that Biblical? Jesus WAS very direct, angry, loud, judgmental when he spoke to the money changers…
Remember God is in control
Our joy is from our walk in the spirit not the conditions of our world out there or our circumstances…
I’d like to have open talks with the kids the way we have with our team and with Gerd.
I can walk in peace
If I want the world to NOT walk I’m ANXIETY and to walk in PEACE, i need to model walking in it.
To do all this I need to WALK IN THE SPIRIT.
If I want my kids to be led by or WALK IN THE SPIRIT, I need to model that.
If you want a peaceful life you have to have peace with God.
Can I do all this while communicating my needs? Can I consider needs of others while also considering my own? With Samantha I communicate my need for space.. it can all be done with gentleness and respect. Not let myself get riled up by someone else
I’d really like to go to church and I’d really like you to go with me, but you are an adult and I can’t make you. I’ll take the car at 10:15 if you two join me.