Notes

5-7-15
Azri – when tucking in bed: “God loves daddy. (Over and over) God loves mommy.  I love God (2x).” 🙂 He’s a chatty Cathy before bed and when just getting up.

Abeka Academy – seems ok. A lot of video. Expensive and maybe not best schooling. Cuts out a lot of benefits of homeschooling.

Like forming a school & having Abeka keep grades… Not necessary.

Maybe mix grades somehow. Kids work at their level. Teach all one subject and go more in depth for certain grades. Olders teach younger kids.

Go with things kids are passionate about.

Have to be able to think on your toes and be flexible…

Start a school, need a cred. teacher?, …

Some could do video academy and still be in group.

Homework during day. However, some things could be good at home like reading and special projects.

Could some of time be at home instead?

Can video lesson actually taught.

Needs to be some sort of teacher compensation and to church

And what would it look like?

Some full group – all except language, reading, and math.

PHCS
Good buddy stuff

Purpose of my life
Purpose of our marriage
Purpose of our family

Personal vision/goals from God

Life verse – may the words…
Family verse – love the Lord…

We need to BOTH buy into whatever we decide or it won’t work

What I want for our marriage and family and why

What is your role in this marriage?
TG – provider, very very part time educator, fixer, masseuse, bringer of calm & tranquility, doctor, bill payer
TL – teacher, cook, nurse, caregiver, housekeeper, planner, organizer, secretary,

What do you see my role in this marriage to be?
TG – partner to relax or play or talk or debate with
TL – sharer in life of responsibilities and fun, listener, collaborator, partner

What do you expect your responsibilities to be?
TG – (I don’t mind washing and drying clothes). I don’t mind putting away my clothes.  Water garden, check on chickens
TL – dishes, laundry, vacuum, bathrooms, sweep, mopping, extra cleaning, mail filing,

What do you expect my responsibilities to be?
TG – take & pick up kids, feed kids,
TL – you do garden, chickens, bills,

Family-
Change our routine of tg vegging & TL cleaning for family time…
Activity
Devo
Games
Diy kits

What are your general expectations for our marriage?
TL – That we care for and support each other and be a model relationship for our kids to see and want. That we would be a united front in parenting and each others strongest supporter and encourager
TG – sex, time off phones to talk

TL – Need time just being together, enjoy talks in the kitchen and car

How do you think it’s going?
1-10 (10best)
TG – 5, at each others throats, don’t have much fun together. Not totally unhappy, but a lot lacking.
TL – 5 too much dissention and frustration and general meanness and lack of support (undermining)

Areas for growth. 🙂

If we could change one thing or work on one area?
TG – sleeping naked
TL – weekly check-in

What do you feel you have been doing really well?
TG – not yelling at kids as much, better at getting them calm (still want to work on other projects that benefit us just don’t have much time.

What are all the things you see that I do well?

How do you feel things are going in our marriage and family?

Is there anything you are really happy about?
Anything frustrated about?

Is there anything in life that is burdening you?

How can I pray for you?
How have you been praying for me?
Here’s how you can pray for me.

What do you want me to change and why?
What are you seeking to change about yourself and why?

Do you think this will help you?  Why or why not?
If this only serves to help me, would that be ok with you?

What is your role in this marriage?
What do you see my role in this marriage to be?
What do you expect your responsibilities to be?
What do you expect my responsibilities to be?
What are your general expectations for our marriage?
How do you think it’s going?

What do you feel you have been doing really well?
What are all the things you see that I do well?

How do you feel things are going in our marriage and family?

Is there anything you are really happy about?
Anything frustrated about?

Is there anything in life that is burdening you?

How can I pray for you?
How have you been praying for me?
Here’s how you can pray for me.

What do you want me to change and why?
What are you seeking to change about yourself and why?

Do you think this will help you?  Why or why not?
If this only serves to help me, would that be ok with you?

More Ideas for Faith Training:
Make or buy a holder for verses like mom’s old daily bread loaf so at breakfast someone could pick and read one and we could discuss it.
We could also all make our own too.
Play Christian music at home more.
Remove the music from the car that isn’t Christian.
Post up scripture more.
Pray over verse for each child.

Ama’s supplement schedule
Medical bills
Tithe balance & bank balances
Discussion about needs and priorities
Check if I submitted to be paid for March or April from Gaila for meetings.

Check about pt & if those payments have gone toward our deductible.

More?

Sunday sermon: 4/26/15

Parable of the tenants
Matthew 21:33-

Spoke around Passion Week

Landowner – God
Vineyard – Israel
Wicked vinedressers – religious leaders
Servants – prophets of Old Testament
Tenants – religious leaders
Son – Jesus

Landowner put wall around vineyard for protection – God provided protection. Put winepress – labor was made easy for them.  Built watchtower – able to see anything coming against us from afar off. With can see stumbling blocks and anything else that may come against us, not caught by surprise.

1. God prepared all for us
2. Sometimes we still don’t respond as we should
3. There is an awful judgment

What do we do with Jesus?

Sunday 4/26/15

Bravery

Song “He calls me out upon the waters…”

Psalm 23

Song “Just as I am”

My burdens and challenges:
Parenting
Trevor and I on opposite pages
Needing to communicate what I am doing and why
Needing to be heard
Desire family bible study
Desire communication between Trevor and me
Desire bible study/devo/prayer with Trevor
Want support – spoken to kids
Wisdom and direction for school
Wisdom and direction for parenting and schedule
Tithe
Gal 6:10
House cleaning and organizing
Ira

Backyard
Put in sod
Move hose down
Potted plant where hose currently is
Potted plant on the deck
Potted plant on table
Paint outside of (doors) and jams
Clean or touch up paint outside walls
Reattach extension cord

Dining Room
Paint inside of (doors) and jams
Remove tall shelf unit
Take kid work off walls.
Maybe remove frames from tree on wall
Clear off top of furniture to the left of the door
Touch up paint as needed (wall behind chair)

Kitchen
Clear countertops completely
Remove as much as we don’t use nearly daily from cabinets.
Box up unused meds and put under sink in bathroom.
Clear top of refrigerator
Move entryway shelf unit
Remove garbage bin
Clear under sink to only have garbage and recycle.
Remove pictures/papers from fridge
Buy a sink mat, etc

Living Room
Remove all wires
Remove all extras on side table.
Move small couch
Finish moving shelves and baskets
Remove cards from card tree
Move DVR, hard drives, most electronic stuff
Move pillows from fire place
Desk area – cord mess – clean up

Attic/Outside
Undo wiring and cables from attic, and surveillance cameras from outside.
Replace outdoor light fixtures in front
Try to replace our address number light thing
Clean and refill the bird feeder
Find something to pit to right of door to hide (maybe wood shoe stand with plant on it)

Hallway
Remove pictures and swap family picture
Move hamper
Repaint closet doors

Laundry Closet
Stage with a couple hangers and a kid jacket or something
Clear everything else off
Move wet wipes down

Azri and Adi’s Room
Remove shelves and baskets
Take changing table top
Change around

Girls Room
Center the bookcase
Minimize decorations
Clear under bed or make not visible unless intentional or bed skirts
Minimize books and clear top  of bookshelf behind door
Remove papers from wall
Touch up paint
Leave a-z paper border

Bathroom
Clea off counter when people come
Add color
Paint back of door

Master Bedroom
Remove everything except dresser, night stands, and bed
Remove stuff on dresser/stands
Remove all but about 1/3 of clothes
Minimize the vanity of pics and bar soap

Bathroom
Shower
Mold
Move picture
Move toilet mat
Decorate

Front Yard
Path
Garbage bins
Mulch
Plant to hide cords and dry rot